Live Life, Bucket List

Forty Plus and Single Again? It’s Not The End of The World.

Perhaps you are currently going through a divorce or separation, maybe it’s been a while since you became a free agent again. Whatever your circumstances this could be the perfect time to start thinking about your bucket list. Maybe you don’t want to think about moving on just yet but believe me there will be a time when you will appreciate your freedom.

Right let me take a step back, I’m not advocating divorce or saying that being single is better than being part of a couple. I am saying it’s better to be single than in an unhappy relationship. And this could be the start of something amazing in your life.

Everest Flight in a small plan. I did it!

Everest Flight in a small plan. I did it!

Helpful Tips for Your Bucket List:

A Bucket List Can Change

If you are going through a time in your life where things are uncertain or changeable, then keeping your bucket list flexible is important. When I first separated I changed my bucket list daily, actually probably a few times in a day.

So if you change your mind after adding something to your bucket list, remember it’s your life and you can change it whenever you feel like it. That’s the beauty of being single again, nobody to answer to.

Start Small – Even Small Things Make a Difference

One of the first things I did was to travel solo to Nepal, you may not want to take such a big first step. Starting small is just as good, it’s a personal thing remember. My weekend in Brighton doing jetskiing was an experience I loved. It pushed me out of my comfort zone without having to leave the country. So when compiling your bucket list be true to you. Remember who this life belongs to.


Your Now Will Not Be Always

Of course you may have responsibilities, you may have financial restraints but a bucket list is for the future. You just make a commitment to live your life with passion for now and the future. Sounds a little contradictory for me a Mindfulness Practitioner to say that, but the truth is we live in the now, not in the future. That doesn’t stop us from laying foundations for a better future. The problem arises when we live in the future, not enjoying now.

Remember that life happens in the moment, good or bad it’s happening now. So live your life now with gentle curiosity for the future.

If we are fortunate to live another day, let’s make it an amazing day.

You Alone Are Responsible For The Quality Of Your Life

How fortunate people in a relationship are? They get to blame each other for all the things they can’t do. Well I know I did that sometimes. Now I’m single I can’t blame anyone but me, so no more excuses!

Being single again means that you alone are responsible for your life. It really is up to you to do as you please, do you have the courage? Write your bucket list, be brave, be true to you and take it one step at a time.

Live your dreams while you can.