I’ve been wanting to share my thoughts on the Law of Attraction for a long time but held back because of the staunch support it has. A few times when I’ve challenged people on the concept of the Law of Attraction, it has invoked some angry and defensive responses. So I’ve stayed away from the topic until now. I’ve seen the damage it can cause to people going through considerable difficulties in life to not speak some truths. So here I go.
Danger 1 – The Law of Attraction is Forward Thinking
I guess the most important aspect of the law of attraction that makes me uncomfortable is that it is completely focused on the future. There is nothing wrong with being positive about the future, why shouldn’t we be? However looking forward to better days means we miss the essence of now, the only moment that is real.
If all it took to make us happy was to think of better days to come, then surely we should all be jumping for joy right now? Let’s get real, that’s not the case. We only become peaceful and happy when we are present with the now.
Of course have dreams for the future, work hard for the future but don’t live in it and don’t let it consume your every thought. Not at the expense of missing life.
Danger 2 – You Never Learn to Live with Disappointment and Sadness
And here is the disease of modern society, the inability to live with anything negative, the inability to accept when things don’t turn out how you want them and worse the inability to accept you can’t always have things your own way.
The law of attraction promises you that if you think hard enough, if you really focus all your energy then you attract what it is you want. And if you don’t have what you want, it’s because you just haven’t focused your thoughts properly.
There is a certain element of truth in this of course. Determination and focus in life will get you where you want to be. Laser sharp focus and hard word work is more likely to equal success than doing nothing or being negative. That’s a given. But the danger of the law of attraction is that many see it as a science in that all you have to do is focus, think about it all the time and there you are the universe gives it to you. Like all science, there’s always a margin of error and there are no guarantees in life.
The more you refuse to accept that life is full of disappointment the unhappier you become. I’m not being a pessimist or negative here I am being a realist. Life is all about ups and downs, it is the very nature of life. The more you resist, the more you ignore, the more you become disconnected with life as it is now.
Danger 3 – There is No Gratitude for What We Have
I want to stress that I’m not advocating that we just give up and accept life without trying to better things for us and others. Actually living in the present moment, with complete awareness of your own thoughts, feelings, emotions and consequent actions is a powerful way to affect change.
However when all we do is look forward to better days and more things in our life, we stop appreciating what we have right now.
Gratitude is an amazing attitude.
Having the ability to be grateful for even the smallest thing brings peace into one’s life in an instant.
Why delay being at peace with life in the hope of a better future?
What happens if that future isn’t better?
What if now is perfect but we fail to see it until it’s too late?
Let’s savour Now and leave the future where it is.