life happens for us

Last night I watched a powerful documentary that followed Anthony Robbins through one of his popular seminars. For anyone that’s never heard of Anthony Robbins, he is a renowned inspirational speaker and author of “Awaken the Giant Within”. Anthony Robbins doesn’t say anything new; most of what he shares has been said before in one way or another, most of it is just common sense. What he has is an inner strength and an innate ability to connect with people, to the point that it has a profound impact.

I first read his book around twenty years ago and it played a real role in my progress back then. But what hit home last night was when he said:

“If my mother had been the mother I had wanted

I would not be the man I am proud to be”

There are two types of people in this world. There’s the one’s that let their circumstances and experiences turn them into victims. Then there’s the one’s who use these experiences to grow and become strong.

When I look back at my life, I recognise how I have been able to turn even the most painful experiences into gifts. And I don’t say this lightly, it is part of my “makeup”. I didn’t have the easiest upbringing, yet somehow I’ve always been thankful for it because I know it’s what made me be who I am today. Even when my marriage ended I was able to see the lessons and use them to make me stronger, wiser and yes happier.

Does this sound ridiculous?

I mean people treating you badly and you’re grateful?

I can truthful say “hell yes I’m grateful for all those that hurt me, let me down and treated me badly”


Because I have a deep sense of self trust, self respect and at my core a deep pride in the person I am. Does that make me arrogant, self assured? No it may make others feel uncomfortable because to have such self approval, means I don’t need others to approve. It means I can stand on my own two feet without feeling alone. Ultimately my happiness is unshakeable because I am aware that at anytime something can happen to cause me pain, I don’t shy away from pain. I know each time something or someone hurts me, it just helps me build my pain resistance. Does that mean I want pain? Of course not, but pretending I can get through life without pain is pointless because it will never happen.

Dear past thank you

In the film Anthony Robbins shouts out how proud he is of himself, he shouts out that he is the best at what he does and why shouldn’t he? It’s easier for us to say how rubbish we are? But saying we are great, we are the best is so unacceptable?

Ultimately, unshakeable happiness is not about things, it’s not about what and who you have in your life. Unshakeable happiness is how you feel at the core of you. I’m happy to say at my core I am at peace, proud to stand alone in this beautiful life that I have been given. No pain can disturb that because it is all part of who I am.

“I am not your guru” Official Trailer – Anthony Robbins