What’s the One Thing That Will Make You Happy in an Instant?

What’s the One Thing That Will Make You Happy in an Instant?















Today I got an email from one of my tenants giving notice to terminate his contract. Nothing special about that, except that this forty year old man has been battling cancer for the last couple of years. Last month he was taken into hospital again but this time it was different, this time he was given the news that he was terminal. But inspite of this, he continued to pay his rent and say he was coming home. Until yesterday, finally given the news that he had two weeks to live, he has resigned himself to a peaceful ending. Sounds strange to be talking about this in the context of being happy right?

“It’s not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not” – Thich Nhat Han

It made me sad to think of this young man sitting in a hospital waiting for his life to end. However at the same time I felt an overwhelming gratitude for my own life. And in that instant I decided to just walk, go out into the fresh air, to smell the tree’s damp in the autumn climate, stand under the bright sun and soak it in and listen to the bird life right on my doorstep.

What’s the One Thing That Will Make You Happy in an Instant?

And in that instant I started to feel a little sorry for the people who can not see the miracle that is life, the privilege to be living and breathing. I felt sad for people who live in the darkness of their negative thinking. The one’s that chase more, more money, a bigger car, a bigger house, more, more stuff and all the while missing the essence of life. To be happy does not require any stuff, it requires a clear understanding that life is precious, this moment is precious and if we can just soak in the seriousness of this we are instantly happy.

It got me reflect on what maybe going through this young man’s mind right now, as he waits for his final hour. So I sat on the damp log in the middle of the local park, listened to the noises and tried to imagine what he may be going through right now. It takes great strength to come to terms with the ending, even though it is the one thing we are certain of. I took this video while I was sitting in the park, nature and peace through my eyes I guess. This is life.

And I made a promise to all those who are battling with illness, who lost their lives too soon and who are no longer with us:

I will live my life in respect for them, in respect for the moments they never got. I will live my life in honour of those that lost their lives too soon because that is the only way to live. When we do not take our life serious, when we do not love every moment we live, when we squander our life on meaningless things, we do not respect those who did not get the chance.

I apologise to those that find talking about death difficult but I guess for me it is vital to understand that death is what makes life so precious. To be happy we must savour every moment we are here to live.

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How to find Unshakeable Happiness

How to find Unshakeable Happiness

life happens for us

Last night I watched a powerful documentary that followed Anthony Robbins through one of his popular seminars. For anyone that’s never heard of Anthony Robbins, he is a renowned inspirational speaker and author of “Awaken the Giant Within”. Anthony Robbins doesn’t say anything new; most of what he shares has been said before in one way or another, most of it is just common sense. What he has is an inner strength and an innate ability to connect with people, to the point that it has a profound impact.

I first read his book around twenty years ago and it played a real role in my progress back then. But what hit home last night was when he said:

“If my mother had been the mother I had wanted

I would not be the man I am proud to be”

There are two types of people in this world. There’s the one’s that let their circumstances and experiences turn them into victims. Then there’s the one’s who use these experiences to grow and become strong.

When I look back at my life, I recognise how I have been able to turn even the most painful experiences into gifts. And I don’t say this lightly, it is part of my “makeup”. I didn’t have the easiest upbringing, yet somehow I’ve always been thankful for it because I know it’s what made me be who I am today. Even when my marriage ended I was able to see the lessons and use them to make me stronger, wiser and yes happier.

Does this sound ridiculous?

I mean people treating you badly and you’re grateful?

I can truthful say “hell yes I’m grateful for all those that hurt me, let me down and treated me badly”


Because I have a deep sense of self trust, self respect and at my core a deep pride in the person I am. Does that make me arrogant, self assured? No it may make others feel uncomfortable because to have such self approval, means I don’t need others to approve. It means I can stand on my own two feet without feeling alone. Ultimately my happiness is unshakeable because I am aware that at anytime something can happen to cause me pain, I don’t shy away from pain. I know each time something or someone hurts me, it just helps me build my pain resistance. Does that mean I want pain? Of course not, but pretending I can get through life without pain is pointless because it will never happen.

Dear past thank you

In the film Anthony Robbins shouts out how proud he is of himself, he shouts out that he is the best at what he does and why shouldn’t he? It’s easier for us to say how rubbish we are? But saying we are great, we are the best is so unacceptable?

Ultimately, unshakeable happiness is not about things, it’s not about what and who you have in your life. Unshakeable happiness is how you feel at the core of you. I’m happy to say at my core I am at peace, proud to stand alone in this beautiful life that I have been given. No pain can disturb that because it is all part of who I am.

“I am not your guru” Official Trailer – Anthony Robbins