When I was going through my break-up it was difficult to get through a day without finding some form of escape. When you are in the midst of the chaos that a relationship ending brings, it can be difficult to do much at all. Sometimes it’s just good to switch on a film and zone out for a while, give yourself some time to begin to put your self back together again.
These are my favourite break-up films, they helped me when I was going through the rough time and sometimes I still watch them.
1 – The First Wives Club
Can’t beat this film if your going through a break-up. It’s funny whilst still being empowering. My absolute favourite actresses, strong talented women. As a mature woman myself I can identify with this classic man leaves for an younger woman scenario.
However I felt the essence of this film is the inspiration from the women taking back their lives and keeping their self respect. It’s a revenge film but with a subtle touch, no aggressive anger but a gentle getting even. I’d say watch this film and dare not to laugh – a good laugh is therapy.
2 – Under The Tuscan Sun
When Frances finds out that her husband is having an affair all she wants to do is to run away. She takes a trip to Italy which turns out to be longer than planned, it’s the start of her new journey.
The scenery adds magic to the film – Italy’s beautiful Tuscan landscape. An inspiring film for any woman going through a break-up. It shows that with a little courage and the will to let go, things eventually work out for the best or dare I say it without giving away too much, things turn out amazingly!
3 – Waiting to Exhale
This film is a little more complicated and deep. It’s covers the lives of four friends. Two are having affairs with married men and expecting these men to leave their wives to marry them. And in contrast one of the friends marriage ends when her husband leaves her for his mistress and lastly one friend is just starting a new relationship. It’s an interesting combination of life stories.
This scene shows the anger and pain that Bernadine feels when she learns about the betrayal of her husbands affair. I think anyone who’s been through a divorce or separation knows what that feels like and I can’t blame her for wanting revenge. Good to watch but I don’t recommend anyone does this, even if it looks cleansing!
4 – Silver Linings
While this film isn’t directly about breaking up, it is about life falling apart. It follows Pat who loses his job and his marriage, and ends up having a breakdown leading him into a mental institution. It follows Pat through his recovery and his journey to rebuild his life.
What I like about this film is that it shows how life can really knock us down, it can be difficult to stay afloat but if we give ourselves the time and space, we recover. And when we recover we are stronger and wiser. This is an interesting film and also gives us the male perspective for a change because a break-up is difficult for everyone involved.
5 – Grace and Frankie
The ultimate series about rebuilding your life after a break-up and proof that it’s never too late! It’s a comedy about two couples in their seventies. The wives find out after forty or so years of marriage that their husbands are gay and have been having an affair for most of their marriage. The men declare their love for each other and the lives of everyone is turned upside down.
Whilst this is a comedy I kept finding myself feeling extremely sad for the two women who had given so many years of their lives to a fake relationship. After all if this isn’t betrayal I don’t know what is. I don’t want to give too much away in case you haven’t seen it, so I’ll just say watch it and let me know what you think.